These "rewards" drain our energy for the things we really want to do - the things that support us, that help us become our best, and give us energy for the tasks ahead. And they all come with punishments - hangovers, fatigue, credit card debts, gained weight, and lost self-esteem.
Today, make a list of 5 things that you could do that express your most cherished values.
These could be:
- Spending time with your child, spouse, or other loved one (family)
- Learning to play the guitar (music, art appreciation)
- Cleaning the garage or spare room (order)
- Going for a walk, a hike, or a run (nature, exercise)
- Planning for and taking a long-desired vacation (travel)
You get the point. What is it that you truly value? What kind of person do you want be? THEN (and the two lists may overlap), make a list of 3 ways you can reward yourself in accordance with those values. It may include self-denial such as
- skipping dessert
- going to bed early to get up for a morning walk
- going to bed a little later so that you can get in some reading time
- making sure you practice the guitar 5 minutes a day
- doing yoga in the morning instead of surfing the Web
- saving money in a jar for a trip to Paris
When we treat ourselves like we matter, the Universe responds in kind. "Everything counts!" says Gary Ryan Blair. "There will never be a day that does not require perseverance, dedication, discipline, and personal integrity."
Practice Beginner's Mind!